Something happened in my class last week and it made me ponder about how adults think... When my cute lil boy cannot finish the game in class, mummy accidentally said, "you shld arrange faster. see, now everyone finished arranging and teacher showing answers now." after a while, he started to cry loudly in class... ='(
why did he cry? mummy was puzzled by his sudden outburst and brought him out to pacify him... after a while, he was feeling better and got back to the class... after class, i had a lil chat with mummy... she was telling me tt she din know why he would suddenly cry... i explained to her wat she told him just now and she was like "did i say that?" "i didn't think much about it and he actually got affected by my words"...
to me, i picked up the same message tt he received when mummy said her comments... its the feeling of rejection! to him, he is trying to recall wat i had shown him, probably wanting to double confirm his answers before arranging... he knows if he does it right, mummy will be happy and proud of him... tts the reason for him working hard at it... but mummy's one simple comment simply deny him of the efforts he put in... i think tts why he feels sad and could not help but to cry...
we often dun think much of wat we said and treat them as passing comments, however it might just affect the party who is listening to us... especially towards young children, you think tt its alright for you to say anything you like and they might not understd you... for me, i dun think this is true... even if they could not express themselves in words, your words would really have an impact on them, whether it is negative and postive!
No comments:
Post a Comment